If you’re a chronic illness warrior, you probably know that we beat ourselves up way more than we praise ourselves for our accomplishments. After all, getting out of bed can be a real struggle and oftentimes we are so inundated with negative thoughts that we don’t really see all the positive things we accomplish on a daily basis.
Instead of beating ourselves up, we need to give ourselves accolades and praise. Times are hard when you are suffering with chronic pain. The days crawl by when you’re in a pain flare and it’s so hard to be positive. When you add this to the demands of getting the kids to school, getting to work, grocery shopping, cleaning up and all those other mundane but important tasks, life may feel overwhelming.
Well, today it is time to take time for yourself. It is time to take time out to care for your needs. It is time to put yourself first. By renewing your mind, body and spirit, you can improve your attitude, confidence and relationships with those you love and care about. Here’s some tips to get you started.
Spend Time Doing the Things You Enjoy Doing
So often, we put everyone else’s needs before our own needs. Therefore, it is important that you spend time every single day doing something fun just for you. Take time and engage in that one activity that brings you immense joy. It can be resting, watching your favorite TV show, painting, singing, dancing, or whatever. Just make sure that it brings you joy. Whatever you decide, commit to doing that one thing and do it today.
Shine the Spotlight on Your Needs and Give Yourself Praise
Since the beginning of time, we have been taught that it is very important to give others unconditional love. You may have even been called selfish if you don’t forsake your needs instead of others’ needs. Well, this has got to stop. Starting today, you have to put your needs first. Although it is okay to celebrate others and their accomplishments, you can’t care so much about other people’s needs that you neglect your own. For instance, if someone asks you to do something that you aren’t able to do because of chronic pain, simply say, “No, thank you” and don’t do it. Don’t worry about how they’ll perceive it. Instead, care more about how you’ll feel if you push yourself to do something that you’re not physically able to do. In addition, be proud of yourself. So many times we play down our own achievements, but we can be proud of ourselves without being arrogant. When you do something, stop and think about it. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to experience your joy.
Be Your Own Cheerleader
We always have that little voice that speaks to us about failure and our shortcomings. With so many thoughts a day, it’s no wonder that most of us experience negative self-worth. Well, this shouldn’t be a constant war. In your chronic illness journey, it is important to have a strong mind and give yourself unconditional love. If you need help with this area, check out L and learn proven strategies for loving yourself more.
By learning to love yourself unconditionally and being your own cheerleader and best friend, you’ll finally get the support you need. Shoot down those negative thoughts that says that you cannot accomplish your goals. Instead, encourage those thoughts by being grateful for all the things you can do. Cheer yourself on!
Let Yourself Off the Hook
As much as you may try to be, no one is perfect all of the time. You are going to make a mistake at some point. We all will. When it does happen, forgive yourself and leave it in the past. Do not hold on to anger or disappointment when you aren’t able to do something because of chronic pain. After all, you didn’t ask for this condition and you shouldn’t feel guilty about having it. Be gentle and kind to yourself and move forward.
Put Your Health and Happiness First
The health of your body is paramount and will affect your mentality, sense of self-worth, and energy levels. Be kind to yourself by allowing yourself to indulge in fruit and vegetables often. Be sure to exercise at least five days a week for 30 minutes. It is a great stress reliever and a mood booster.
6. Don’t Disrespect Yourself
Confidence and self-respect are very important qualities for your happiness and emotional well-being. You must value yourself as much as you value anyone else. You are not worth less or considered to be less important than someone who doesn’t suffer from chronic pain (or anyone else, for that matter). Feel free to have your own opinions and do not let others make you feel devalued. Be kind to yourself by knowing who you are and what makes you unique.
In conclusion, you have the potential to lead a happier and more fulfilled life. By having fun, putting your needs, health and happiness first, being your own cheerleader, and not disrespecting yourself, you will discover inner peace.