Living with a chronic illness can be extremely challenging. I get it. You have it very hard – a lot more difficult than most people will ever understand. You try to hold it all together on the outside, but your inner world may feel like its crumbling on the inside. How do you even tell people how you feel when you’ve forgotten what “fine” feels like?
To make matters worse, you may get mixed messages from people (consciously or unconsciously). Since they don’t know what your illness feels like, they might say or suggest that you’re exaggerating your pain, symptoms, and emotional turmoil. They might even hint that if you’d only try harder, all your problems will disappear. Although you tell yourself that they have no clue, you may be unconscionably taking in their negativity and causing yourself to feel bad. Or, you may even be turning on yourself and seeing yourself as the issue.
You have to remember one thing, though. Your chronic illness is NOT your fault. We are helpless against our conditions, genetics, and health problems. We didn’t ask to be sick, and we certainly don’t want to stay this way.
Stop telling yourself that your illness is your fault. It’s not.
You are not choosing to be sick. You are not choosing to not be able to do the things that you used to love to do. You are not choosing the chronic illness life you were dealt. You are not choosing symptoms. Unfortunately, your illness is just a situation that happened to you but it doesn’t define you.
You didn’t do anything to cause your illness. You don’t deserve it, and you must stop telling yourself that your illness is your fault. Stop passing the blame and making yourself feel even worse.
Don’t let other people make you feel bad either. Don’t let them steal your joy or make you feel as if you’re not doing enough. You are! You fight for better health every freaking day and for this, you should be commended.
Whatever you do, don’t lose faith or hope. Keep fighting. Keep winning with a positive mental attitude. Remember that you did nothing to deserve this. You are a warrior who is fighting hard. Accolades to you my friend. Stay warrior strong!