Often when we are trying to achieve our goals, a voice in our heads screams out that whatever we want to achieve—be it losing ten pounds, getting a new job, or simply getting out of bed at a decent hour each day—is out of our grasp. You can’t do that, the voice insists. You’re too lazy. You don’t have it in you. You’re not made of the right stuff.
An important key to unlocking your dreams is the fact that that voice is no one other than you. You can and should be your own biggest cheerleader when it comes to achieving your goals, but you will also often be your biggest critic. It’s up to you to know the difference between when your internal voice is cheering you on or dragging you down. It will unfortunately be the latter most of the time, at first.
Awareness of your internal thoughts and beliefs is called self-awareness. As you practice listening to yourself without getting too caught up in the negative thoughts, you will have more and more control over your mood. Practice thinking of yourself as a mere observer of your thoughts—this will give you a chance to see how casually cruel and negative your mind can be toward itself while most of your attention is distracted by other things.
As you become more and more self-aware, it’s important to open yourself up to new possibilities and experiences. When that angry voice tells you no, you need to respond back with a resounding yes. I promise this will become much easier to do once you are more aware of your own negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. As you become more self-aware, you will also naturally become more open to change, since you’ll see how much happier novelty and stimulus makes you than the static slump of a changeless existence.
Becoming more self-aware isn’t easy. It requires a great deal of focus and concentration. But as you grow more self-aware, you’ll be shocked at how much simpler it will appear to accomplish your goals. You will see all the obstacles you were putting in your own way. Your illness of course comes with some very real limitations, but let’s be honest—we all lean into victimhood every now and then. Instead of feeling guilty, let’s make a pact not to use our illnesses as an excuse. With improved self-awareness we can and will achieve our dreams!