Everyone likes the word SUCCESS. When you hear it, it makes you feel hopeful, encouraged and full of pride. You feel good. You imagine good things that have happened to you and things that are likely to happen in the future.
In contrast, most people dislike the word FAILURE. It provokes feelings of sadness, insecurity, dread and a sense of impending doom.
What if there were a way to see failure as feedback and not failure? What if there were a way to change your perception of failure so you ultimately achieve much more?
There is! Failure is only feedback turned inside out. Failure is basically a way to gauge the situation and improve its outcome. It is a way to learn from your past mistakes so you learn more in the future. It is a way to succeed in spite of not getting it right the first time.
Consider Thomas Edison, one of our most influential inventors. During his life, he had over 1,000 patents and created many inventions including the phonograph, the first motion picture camera, the electric light bulb and the telegraph. When asked about the light bulb, he stated, “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”
Here are some tips to help you on your quest for success:
Focus On Those Things You Can Control
Focus on those things you can fix and dismiss those things you can’t. For instance, let’s talk about your illness. People who have never experienced your condition may or may not believe you’re ill. They may be unsupportive. They may talk about you behind your back. They can try and push you beyond your limits – but you don’t have to let them dissuade or discourage you. You know that your illness is real and although you can’t waste precious time or energy convincing them of this, and why you need support rather than criticism, you can control your own perception of them. You can choose to ignore their disbelief and concentrate on focus on loving and accepting yourself. You can choose to focus on finding people who support you, leaving the naysayers alone.
Avoid Overthinking to Avoid Choking
Don’t overthink or analyze everything. If you overthink situations too much, you will feel more stressed and be likely to repeat the situations of the past. Don’t get anxious about past mistakes. Simply evaluate the situation with an open mind, figure out how you can improve it in the future – and move on. Focus on positive things and take your mind off the idea of failure to encourage success.
Forget the Word Failure; It’s Just a Bleep
“No” is just a word. In fact, the worst that can happen to you is being told “No.” However, for some, “no” can be an opportunity to get creative, learn, grow and thrive. As for failure, it’s the exact same principle. Failure is nothing to fear because you can always learn from the situation. You can pick yourself up and try again. Failure is a lesson and feedback. It is not a reflection of who you are; it will never be who you are. Just something that you can learn from.
How you determine failure sets forth what you can and will achieve. By seeing it as an opportunity to grow, you increase the likelihood of success. Make it happen.