Setting and Achieving Your Personal Goals
In October of 2014, Mark Zuckerberg, a serial entrepreneur and one of the five founders of Facebook, stunned his audience when he began speaking in Mandarin, a Chinese language variety, for around 30 minutes – including making a few jokes. According to Zuckerberg, learning Mandarin was a personal goal, and he sets one personal goal every year. He encourages everyone to complete at least one personal goal a year and states that they do not have to be excessive or overly ambitious.
Having a chronic illness is no excuse for not having personal goals, and the best way to achieve a personal goal is to choose one that holds a special meaning for you. This means not setting goals that others want you to accomplish; rather, you alone should feel inclined to complete them. Never compete with anyone else’s goals.
The Beauty and Ugliness of Competition with Personal Goals
Everyone has personal goals but they go beyond just self-improvement. They are about overcoming emotional hurdles, physical barriers, and achieving a balanced state of mind. Most will agree that achieving a personal goal is one of the greatest accomplishments a person can do.
Personal Goals Are Not Based on Other People’s Benchmarks
When setting a personal goal, share your goal with others but do not get too competitive. Further, never rely on benchmarks achieved by others to determine your own worthiness. For instance, if your goal is to walk a mile in 30 minutes, do not compare yourself with Svetlana Masterkova, a gold medal runner, who ran a mile in 4:12.56.
Instead of making comparisons, tune into your personal strengths and set individual benchmarks based on what you can realistically accomplish. Remember that your goal is to be the best you can be. You are unique, special, and extraordinary, and can achieve your daily, weekly, monthly, or yearly personal goals if you work consistently and steadily towards your goal.
Additionally, as you work toward personal goal accomplishment, your self-esteem will improve because you set a goal and worked toward reaching it. The satisfaction of not having a benchmark based on another person’s life will be fuller because it will be based on your struggle. Each step you take will become a magnificent achievement on its own. It’s just like learning to ride a bike or stepping out on your own without the usual fear of being judged or ostracized.
To figure out your personal goals, ask yourself the following questions:
What personal goals do I want to achieve?
Are there specific skills I need to acquire to make my dream a reality?
Am I focused and committed?
Is my goal achievable?
Do I have a bucket list? How realistic is it? [Idea: Have two bucket lists: one for feasible, “right now” goals and another for over-the-top personal goals.]
Reflect on the above questions. Reflect on the answers and commit to change right now. Do not simply make goals that others want you to accomplish. Instead, focus on goals you want to accomplish. Write down goals and review them every single day. If you have to make alterations, that’s okay. Feedback is always a good thing. Remember that you can do it.
I believe in you – it’s time to believe in yourself!